How's Your Approach

April 15, 2016 | By Chuck

Several years ago we were in the market for health insurance for our family. The agent came to our home and explained all the details of the policy including the monthly premium. He seemed nice enough and willing to answer our questions. As he was finishing up it was clear that he wanted a commitment and money right then on the spot. I expressed how much we appreciated his time and how impressed we were with the health plan he was offering but that we"d like a little time to discuss it and then I'd be back in touch soon. His mood changed quickly as he jumped up from his seat and proceeded to gather his things while stating, "you preachers always need more time, you can never make a decision" as he stormed out of our house. When we did make our decision about health coverage guess who didn't receive a phone call? It's very possible that I would have purchased health coverage from the man from my story, but not after he acted the way he did. I believe this very thing happens in the church. We want so desperately to win souls and make a difference in the lives of others for Jesus. But how's our approach? How do we come across to the outsider? Do they feel we are being rude, critical or judgmental? If so, you probably won't lead that person to Christ. In fact, you probably played a role in pushing them away from Christ. "Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone."(Col.4:5-6) Our approach with people really does matter. If you turn someone away by your approach, you won't win their soul to the Lord. Paul encouraged that our conversations "be always full of grace, seasoned with salt". May we consider our approach with others so they will desire to hear the message we want to share.